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he looks so perplexed in the last photo
right though he’s like
????????? there isn’t even millet back here?????? wtf
Hey thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed the picture. I haven’t had surgery so I can’t say I know for sure—but I did some searching and have had a bit of contact with other trans* people who have had surgery, and it appears there are a couple different ways to do it (I get the feeling top surgery for trans* people isn’t the most, uh…standardized?). I think there’s the way you had it, the incisions I had in my picture, and a combination of the two. That’s what I’ve seen from my research, in any case.
Thanks again for your input and your compliment though! I’ll do a little more research this evening and see if there’s anything I ought to change.
This scene is really important and makes me really emotional.
Sherlock is a show-off. There is a thrill associated with knowing things other do not, deducing impossible amounts of information from the most invisible clues, knowing that everyone completely relies on you and your brilliance to carry them through. Every time he rattles off a deduction there is this swelling sense of pride, a “look at me, look how great I am” feeling coming off of him, because Sherlock loves to be praised and feel important.
Unfortunately, this kind of show-offery is a huge display of power over those around him, putting him on this untouchable, grandiose pedestal and leaving everyone else unable to reach him, and instead often resent him. They need him, of course, and probably admire him, but the constant showing off and boasting gets incredibly tiresome. We can see it in an earlier episode with Bell, getting frustrated at Sherlock’s absurd knowledge and power displays, and attempting to exert power back over him by coming to his own deductive conclusion (but, if you remember, Sherlock denies him that power and respect by not falling into the scripted “how could you have known that” response that Bell was hoping for).
Sherlock has told Joan that they are to be partners, equally important workers for these cases, even though Sherlock has more experience and is acting as a sort of mentoring figure. The goal, however, is to hone Joan’s detective skills and bring out her potential so that she, too, can be great.
So when Sherlock rattles off another seemingly impossible deduction, without going into detail how he did it in an attempt to show off, Joan is understandably hurt by this backhanded putdown of her intelligence and worth. It screams “I, Sherlock, am the genius here, don’t forget that.” It knocks her down several pegs to the lowly position of a mere admirer rather than an intelligent partner in her own right.
That is why Joan, in her frustration, rattles off her own (fabricated) impossible deduction, causing Sherlock to completely stop in his tracks and stare at her in confusion and astonishment before she says, defeated, “See how it feels? Just tell me how you know.” She turns his power display back on him. This is how you are making me feel. My job is not to follow you around and fawn over you. My job is to learn.
Sherlock (who I think wanted to believe Joan had shown him up, had believed it for a second, was completely astonished and in admiration of her) immediately sympathizes with Joan, recognizes what he’s been doing, and races forward to grab her arm and guide her, at his side, to the evidence. He doesn’t just sigh and explain, he doesn’t walk ahead of her, doesn’t react to her power shift by putting her “back in her place” like he did with Bell, he actually takes her with him side by side, holding on to her arm so she doesn’t fall behind, and explains himself so that she can learn (and congratulates her on her following deduction). Because they are partners.
I don’t think (this) Sherlock is a ‘show-off’ (demonstrating knowledge in an attempt to actively garner envy, praise, and admiration from others) as much as he’s a 5 whose sense of security comes from knowing things others do not and being valued by others for that knowledge (demonstrating knowledge as a reinforcement of social status/value to himself as much as others). Which might seem like the same thing from the outside, especially when it’s being used as a power play, but comes from a different motive?
And also I think sometimes (as in this case) he just genuinely forgets that other people don’t see things he does, because he gets so caught up in what he’s doing that he doesn’t stop to think that he’s coming off as a condescending asshole, but once it’s brought to his attention he does feel bad about it.
BUT YES OTHERWISE ALL OF THIS BLESS YOU ETO.
Ah that’s a good point, I think I can see that too. I’d read a thing about Sherlock Holmes in general being show-offy and impressive and I could see it in our Sherlock here, but it being a by-product of his own values and occasionally being socially unaware makes a lot of sense too.
Even though I’m a 4 I do think I have a pretty strong 5 wing and I kind of experience both, where I do value hoarding facts and feel secure and valued when I can infodump at people, buuut it was also an unconscious way for me to be a show-off and feel better than other people (which I’ve also had to have pointed out to me by someone I care about and have to actively keep in check). So perhaps we are both projecting a bit. ;)
I will never doubt the capabilities of this website again.
I want to put this in my graphing calculator now o.o.
Only if you’re feeling particularly ambitious, since the whole equation is approximately a bajillion lines long, give or take.
Ahh, I see. I’m glad you have some stuff of hers to remember her by.
I don’t know about your situation, but it sounds like there was a lot of love for her in your house and I’m sure it wasn’t your fault. Bad things happen without a reason, sometimes. Deaths are always hard to “get over” and pets are honestly no different. People might think you should be able to move past it, but, especially if you’ve had the pet for years, losing a pet can feel like losing a family member. It’s not abnormal to grieve for a long time about these things. It’s been two years since the dog I mentioned in my ask ran away, and I still get misty-eyed over him. About two years before that, another Aussie we had was put down. There’s a lot of leftover pain from that too. “Getting over it” isn’t always a simple option when it comes to a beloved pet.
Again, I don’t know the circumstances surrounding her death, but I hope you can find a way to move past the guilt you have about her. From the few messages I’ve seen from you, it sounds like you had a lot of love for her and would have done anything you could to keep her with you. I’m sure she felt loved by you too. Pets lives are very unfortunately shorter than ours, so almost by necessity they will end up leaving when we aren’t ready; sometimes all you can do is make sure you give them lots of love while you have them and remember the good things you shared with them while they’re gone.
I’m glad you’re looking into rescues, and even if your parents aren’t ready for a new dog yet maybe you can get one in the future so you have a companion again alongside the memories of your old dog. In the meantime, it sounds like you just still need some time and to work through your emotions and guilt about losing her. It does get better, after a while. Take care of yourself, anon.
OH MY GOD I REMEMBER THIS AND THEN I DREW POKE!DEER EVEN THOUGH I HAD NO IDEA WHAT DEER LOOKED LIKE AND IT WAS SO REGRETTABLE
RIGHT THOUGH AHAHA OUR LIVES, OUR CHOICES………
Aaaa! I love (and kind of hate?) going back through old art to see improvement! Noticing your own improvement is the best feeling!
haha definitely! I mean, I always liked having my gallery to go paw through and notice the improvement in, and I never wanted to delete stuff because I thought it would be nice for anyone else going through to see where my beginnings were. Unfortunately, when Deviantart insisted on showing old and terrible pieces as thumbnails when viewing my current and vaguely alright pieces I eventually was driven by shame to put a lot of the old stuff in my gallery in storage so I didn’t have to look at it all the time, hahahahah…..
I was actually thinking about you the other day and how much your skills have improved in just the short time I’ve known you. And then I felt shitty because I improved 0% over the five years you used to become awesome -flail-
Oh no! To be fair, I’ve definitely noticed more confidence/smoothness in your linework, attention to anatomical detail, and more successful experimentation/stylization in your recent stuff you’ve posted. <:! You’ve also been doing badass stuff like zookeeping!
OH MY GOODNESS GEOFFREY <3 I remember this little guy. Makes me want to dig up some super ancient ref!art and draw Teak for the first time in literally years.
RIGHT THOUGH I JUST ffff. It’s been years since I’ve properly Geoffrey’d at all, I’m so ashamed. You should definitely do a Teak for old time’s sake yesss, yessss do it yes peer pressure peer pressure
Your kind words spur me ever onwards, my friend.
I’d realized I’d become one of Those People last week and was momentarily horrified but honestly, the nuance in the acting does all the work for me. What a great show, what lovely actors. I love the time and care being put into cultivating their relationship and changing it from something professional into genuine platonic affection.
But yeah, thank you very much, I’m glad someone else is getting some enjoyment out of it, haha. Combing the tag for choice gifs after each episode is quickly becoming something of a routine.
;__; Now I’m being accused of cissexism because the Muslim woman had a vagina and I just don’t understand how I was being cissexist because she was cis it was just a poem but if I messed up I’m really sorry??
idk I’ve been drinking and every accusation is making me really distraught and I’m just really really really sorry I don’t know how to fix it and I didn’t mean to be offensive I was just trying to respect a struggle and I realize it was out of place now but I swear I don’t know what else to do other than just apologize over and over bewildered and distraught
You can use this extension to block notes on specific posts from showing up, you already apologized & deleted it so you shouldn’t have to see people’s accusations :(
It also might be a good idea to disable anon asks for a few days—sometimes things blow up and people tend to be at their most vicious over anon. You’ve said you’re sorry, you’ve read the reasons why it’s a bad thing, and you don’t deserve to become the possible target of a hatemob who doesn’t care about apologies.
I hope this blows over soon, take care of yourself.
ohhh I saw someone ask Zoe this and I was thinking about posting a thing but decided not to and now you’re here conveniently asking me !!!
Needless to say I’ve thought about this A LOT—I figure that right off the bat acquiring my dogs would be helpful. There’s a man who owns a pet goose down from my mom’s house—can you say long distance flight morph? My sister also has a pet flying squirrel which would make for a great night morph as long as I avoided getting eaten by an owl or something. Oh oh oh, how about a raccoon? A little less likely to get eaten and still pretty agile and everything. I like the idea of having a coyote morph as well. All of those would keep me from standing out a lot. I guess I’d need a raptor morph…we have lots of ospreys around here because of our lake. C:
I’m not really sure what I would use for a battle morph? I guess we have a lot of bulls and stuff in the area that could pack a punch, and there’s a zoo about an hour away. Something sturdy that can pack a punch. :T Hmm. oh !! I just checked the website and we have a cougar :D! I could rock a cougar I think.
Those are the “sensible” morphs I can think of, at least. I’d love to get my hands on the zoo’s otters though, and the sea lions, and the sharks at our aquarium :D! I like the idea of an ostrich/cassowary…hm. But yeah, super great question, thank you very much for sending one to me!