det var när du sa
du tar ju bara små små steg
det händer ingenting det där
du måste våga chansa mer
This is a good response on reddit to someone asking how to reduce their anxiety about playing Go, and it applies to basically everything in life.
One idea is to try to adopt what psychologists call an “incremental” rather than an “entity” mindset. When people have entity beliefs, they think that they have a fixed, unchangeable amount of ability in a domain. Thus, failure means that you lack ability. On the other hand, when people have incremental beliefs, they think that they can learn and get better in a particular domain. Thus, failure just means you’re learning. Another way to think of it: with entity beliefs, you have performance goals - to prove how good you are. With incremental beliefs, you have growth goals - to get better. In pretty much every sense, an incremental mindset will be more adaptive.
There are also other ways to adopt less ego-related goals. Instead of trying to win, you can try to learn, try to teach your opponent something, try to find good moves, try to “solve the puzzle” that the board presents, try to give your opponent a challenging/rewarding experience rather than an easy win, etc.
Your anxiety likely comes from seeing a given game as an opportunity to prove that you are good at something (or an opportunity to reveal your incompetence), when really, a game is a much more rich, interesting experience than that. Any goal you can adopt that makes you focus on something besides your self/ego will help you keep that in mind.
deb morris specializes in photographing tiny waves - three to thirty centimeters high - that break on the coast near her home in new south wales. “my ‘waveart’ is my photographic passion,” she explains. “rather than just capturing frozen moments from this beautiful landscape, i have found a whole new hidden world to investigate. i endeavour to capture those moments the naked eye misses, trying to provide an alternative look to the average wave shots of today.”
I heard talking to plants helps them grow.
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"stop calling me cute watson" (x)
it’s a lot easier to put bandages all over your head if you shave off your hair and wear a wig instead.
it also makes it easier for him to cosplay because he’s a gigantic nerd.